Happy to hear Lizzie! It's nice isn't it? I haven't had that kind of a life in over a year and I miss it. It's amazing how much we physically give of ourselves to the A in our life. It's almost like we are taken hostage and celebrate the rare moments of freedom, just to be ourselves and do the simple things that we have every right to do and should be doing to have the life we deserve.
I am not married to my Abf and am working on leaving him so for me it will be a lot easier to make the choice and leave someone I am not legally or financially tied to. I hope you have the same choice in your horizon.