Originally Posted by
FeelingGreat 
You may as well ask why a dog barks or a cat miaows. It's in his nature and your best course is to make your daughter aware so she can see it too. Just be careful to do it in neutral language, or you may drive your daughter the other way.
How do I do that?
I'm trying but it seems to backfire . We are close make three steps forward he goes out with her and we go five back.
It so hard to know what to do.
I'm going to all kinds of counselling but I'm so confused as I'm dealing with both of them and he is so good at playing such a nice guy he has this way with us.
Like we are brainwashed or something.
We are NOT dumb but it's unbelievable how he has this way.
I'm no contact ...it helps. My eldest is to pretty well too since he gave up on her but youngest is having a hard time .