Until my parents died a few years ago, I tried to minimize my time with them.
Mom was an alcoholic who never tried to get sober, and my dad was a fairly heavy drinker, also.
That house we grew up in had bad juju to me.
No happy memories there.
Now, I have a wonderful time during the holidays with my wife, my sister and some other select friends and family.
I try to spend a good bit of time at the farm also.
But the OP made me think that I need to start assessing what I want for Christmas.
Usually a gun fits the bill rather nicely, but I'm open to other fun gifts.
And I usually buy my wife something that I know she will like.
We usually are out of town on New Years Eve going to a college football bowl game, but we just have a nice early meal and retire to the hotel room.