We don't keep alcohol in the house. No alcohol is served when we host a gathering. Our families and friends know we don't drink and are fine with it. My alcoholic sib doesn't attend family get togethers at all. When I go to an event where alcohol is served, I just make sure I have something non-alcoholic in my hand at all times. I am fond of sparkling non-a cider ( which I often contribute to dinner), v-8 juice, and ginger ale. Early in my sobriety, when I thought I might be tempted to drink, I tried to avoid the event. Unfortunately, that is harder to do with family. Good luck.