Originally Posted by
August252015 
Just my $0.02.....no one can or will drag me anywhere. I don't tolerate conversations like that; in fact, I don't spend time with anyone who ever WOULD talk to me or try to engage me in that. I am, frankly, ruthless about where, how, when and with whom I spend my time. I need everyone around me to be 100% supportive of my life of recovery; in fact, it benefits EVERYONE that I am!
I hope your husband will be supportive, and I do think it's great that you "survived" this encounter. It just wouldn't be something I would choose to go to and perhaps have to deal with- not even earlier on, and still not at going on 8 months.
Stay strong.
Very well said.
With my recovery, I make the rules - no one else, particularly someone who is drinking.
I don't put myself in situations in which I know that I will be around a bunch of people drinking heavily.
This was particularly the case in early sobriety.
These days, I am fairly comfortable being around alcohol, although I still respect it as something that can end my life as I now know it.
My wife and I had a pre-game football party for 100 people on Saturday, and we served beer and Margaritas (actually, our bartender served the drinks), along with soft drinks, iced tea and bottled water and plenty of good food.
I was perfectly comfortable, and no one drank too much.
When we got to the game, though, the guy next to us drinks too much and curses too much.
I cut him a good bit of slack, but I am not going to listen to his profanity all season.
We will see how his behavior plays out, but I suspect that I will handle the matter at the next game.
My fraternity is having its annual get-together at a restaurant/bar a couple of miles from our home the weekend of October 15, so my wife and I will attend, at least until people start behaving like we did 40 years ago.
After that, we will go home and go to bed.
The next night, they are all getting together at the tavern I used to go to nightly until I got sober, but I have no interest in going back there.