yes i'm glad in my above example the reality is its no pressure i'm just learning this instrument and while there are some deadlines being thrown aroudn the reality is i can take it or leave it no ones got a gun to my head to perform by a certain day and if i'm not ready i'm not ready and so whatever. I shoudl not beat myself up over it. Tho I put a lot of pressure on myself anyhow.
I've also heard it said there can be a fine line between being optimistic and being dillusional. But i bet the same could be said about being pesimistic or being dillusional.
I"m a pesimist by nature but trying to be more optimistic. takes work for me.