Seeking advice...
xAH, also a narcissist psycho is at it again...
Showing up 2 of 3 weekends unable to pass breathalyzer, so he has lost driving rights and overnights and has limited to no parenting.
He's making a LOT of veiled "threats" and making my life challenging at best ... telling me he is going to make my life difficult if I plan to seek supervised visits, the local police came to my door at 10 pm last night after an "anonymous" call suggesting they check on the kids well being... The police had NO use for the false call, told me it was a woman who called, stated that and hung up (probably xMIL or his girlfriend)...
He's blustering, posturing, sending group texts blaming me for alienating him and involving his mommy and sister etc....
It's all BS nonsense...
My question is this: lawyer I talked to suggested seeking a temp restraining order to get a week of peace and then would come a final hearing that she believes (me too) I would never win on bc there is no imminent threat to my safety from him that he presents at the moment, but she said at least it would get us in front of a judge to then argue supervised visits etc...
My gut is saying no.
This man THRIVES on court, conflict and making me miss work and causing me distress.
I do not want a hearing, I do not want to give him a court forum to rant and moan and play victim.
I want to stick to him not driving the kids, not having overnights and having his limited time with them... the ownice is on HIM to involve the court if he wants more and THEN I will present all the evidence I have.
I really, truly respect my attorney but I have done well to remain OUT of court with xAH.
Am I missing some benefit to starting the every other week court room drama BS again?
In theory the idea of a restraining order and never having to deal with xAH again is GREAT but in reality, it will be granted temporarily for 10 days, with a final hearing (to prep for) within 30 but as soon as 10 if he asks for it.
Even if he gets supervised visits, it's for a finite period of time, then more hearings to amend things again...
It just seems like it punishes ME more than him to start this process again....
Am I not seeing this right? Am I just making excuses? Am I in denial?
Im rip roaring mad that he's making my life chaotic again and court ='s chaos and means missed work and stress...
I guess until he does something so significant that a court will throw him in jail or he gets arrested, I am not 100% sure it is to my benefit to start the courtroom drama again...
Thoughts?