Thanks a bunch. As always I am astounded by the quality of advice. After reading the responses it is evident that I have not put in enough thought as to the actual cause and or remedy. I can tell you when drinking I only was concerned with the bare minimum of effort required to maintain any relationship I had. I am fairly certain this is true for the majority of us. The best way I can put it is I would not recognize myself from 1.5 years ago. I know who I am and who I want to be for the remainder of my life and I am not afraid to be that person. I am just having great difficulty figuring out how my wife fits into the picture. I know that sounds awful it's just as honest as I can be.