Originally Posted by
Gottalife 
Experience has shown me that I end up far better off when I don't get my own way.
Almost every milestone in recovery has been like that. Getting my own way would have resulted in a really second rate recovery.
Worth repeating.
I often got my own way when I was drinking. Or so it seemed to me at the time.
Having lost virtually everything good in my life, I can't say it worked out well for me.
Aggressiveness screams; assertiveness whispers.