What KissedbyFire said!!!! You can't control any of that and make him do any of those things, but you can TAKE control of them and do something about them as KbF pointed out. Why won't you? Why instead are you waiting for some miracle to happen and he all of a sudden turns into this "normal" person you're wanting him to be and driving yourself nuts because he won't? He obviously doesn't have a problem with himself, but YOU do. So DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.