Originally Posted by
steve-in-kville 
I think back to all the times I relapsed after being sober for a few weeks. Most times were a result of someone accusing me a being a drunk. I have to train myself to quit for myself, not others (although that is important!).
I understand the way you're thinking Steve but it's not helpful or healthy IMO.
It took me a while to get this - but people being unfair, rude, mean or even provocative to me was not ever a suitable reason for me to make the decision to drink.
The buck stops with me with that decision to drink.
The day I accepted it was noone else's fault was actually the day I started to grow again and get better.
Originally Posted by
steve-in-kville Thanks for the replies so far. I don't want to get into all the details, but I knew this would take time. I guess I sorta feel stabbed in the back.
I take it that you've supported her through some stuff and are expecting a similar return?
Just as we can't run people's timetable for them I really believe we can't direct them how to react either
It's tough - but, seriously, it really is a great opportunity for growth
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