Sounds all too familiar to me. You just want him to be healthier and more responsible. Doesn't sound like too much to ask, but to him it is. I've begged my exAB to quit smoking, go to the gym, cut back on drinking, and get a job that isn't Uber driving (which destroys his car and forces him to work long, weird hours for not that much money). He always would say he was "gearing up for it" and he's said that for 5 years. Never happened. I guess he quit drinking whiskey and switched to PBRs. In his mind that was a change he made for me and I should be grateful.