Congrats on one year Roy....that's a pretty big accomplishment. The first year is always tough as there are always the "first" for everything sober...first sober holiday, first sober birthday, etc. The second time around gets easier!
Regarding your success vs acceptance suggestion, it doesn't always have to be black and white. I think that's part of our addictive tendency...we tend to think it has to always be one way or the other. I do the same with my anxiety sometimes...I look for ways to make it completely dissapear, which is not realistic.
There can always be middle ground...you can have some success and some acceptance at the same time. Regarding relationships, it will happen when it's ready to happen - and like Carl says, some people don't find that person until much later in life - and that's not any indication of "failure vs. success"....it just means they didn't find the right person until later.