Originally Posted by dandylion

anchoredby love....yes, I have dealt with inlaws in 2 marriages.
I learned a hard lesson...but, one that should be written in stone...
It is this.
The relationship with his family is between HIM and THEM. It is on his side of the street and it is HIS job to deal with them. No matter what you think about them.
You deal with your family...He deals with his family. You two deal with each other.

by the way....in the big picture of things....it really doesn't matter, anyway...because if he wants recovery he will work for it...no matter what you and his family do or don't do.

dandylion