Originally Posted by
redatlanta 
WTBH sorry this has raised its ugly head AGAIN.
I think what yo have chosen to do, to enforce your Court Order and go that route, is the best decision.
With many normies if you give them an inch they will take a mile. An alcoholic will take 1000 miles. You say this is probably the 10th time he has done this - so it will not stop until YOU stop it.
For me at this point I would not subject the children to any hope that their father will do anything for them, even bring them a Happy Meal from mcdonald's is too much to count on.
Lots of ((hugs)), I am sorry he continues to disappoint, and so glad they have YOU.
The parts in bold (my emphasis) are totally spot on...
I think my sadness was largely bc I alone chose to subject them to the chaos.
I could and should have drawn the line after he pulled this 3 weeks ago on DD10's bday...
Instead I drew up an adendum to the order, and gave him yet another chance...
And he showed me that he still takes me for a fool and showed me that I am a ****** mother to subject my kids to his chaos...
I notified my attorney of his latest violation, told her the trigger is pulled on the conditions of the parenting plan and his parenting is done.
If he wants to petition the court to have supervised visits he can.
I am not going to court to modify parenting, bc the final plan is clear cut-- he has none anymore- and if he wants to ask the court to reconsider, that is on him.
That point was made to me by my lawyer, who smartly asked me why I was paying to reopen the parenting plan and give him the chance to make excuses in court.
The plan allows me to simply end his parenting. The end.
Now it's on him to do what he will.