I wouldn't say I've ever grieved over it. And I've never been angry, either. But I do, very occassionally, have some mild sadness that I'll never be a normal drinker. Particularly at social occassions or, like recently, to be able to have a glass of wine with my husband to celebrate our wedding anniversary.
I chalk that up to only being 3 months into sobriety. (Nearly 4, actually, on the 3rd of September.) I hope it will get better with time. I always remember the reality and recognise it's my AV trying to be tricky with my mind. The fact is, I aint a normal drinker and never will be - nothing I do can ever change that. But I can change the way I feel about that, so that's what I try to focus on.