Originally Posted by
Yours Truly 
D, I think you're right. I'm glad I haven't responded to his hateful email. My lack of response will give the old man something to chew on and perhaps teach him some humility.
Though I'm not counting on the humility part.
Hey there - I haven't made it to the end of this thread yet, but wanted to quickly chime in what you're dealing with with a narcissist (N). The best response is NO response with a N. A response from you would be his "supply". It would be his fuel to ignite his (and her) fire on you even more. My sister is a N and I had to go fully No Contact (NC) with her when I learned the dynamics of a N. I highly recommend going NC with both of them unless you want to be continually torn down by them. N's feed off of reactions from others and if they no longer get the reactionary "supply", they'll eventually move on to newer victims. You sound like such a big-hearted and thoughtful person, you don't deserve their trashing and mean-spirited behavior.