Originally Posted by
dandylion 
anchoredby love....yes, I have dealt with inlaws in 2 marriages.
I learned a hard lesson...but, one that should be written in stone...
It is this.
The relationship with his family is between HIM and THEM. It is on his side of the street and it is HIS job to deal with them. No matter what you think about them.
You deal with your family...He deals with his family. You two deal with each other.
by the way....in the big picture of things....it really doesn't matter, anyway...because if he wants recovery he will work for it...no matter what you and his family do or don't do.
dandylion
Dandylion, these are the wisest words I have heard in a long time.
Anchoredbylove, could it be that you feel hurt because you are the one who went through all the chaos and pain, and now that all is well the parents get to share the joy of his recovery? (Very valid feelings).
As a parent I can tell you that my son has been missing and lost in his addiction for over 10 years. I had to let go, his addiction was killing me. Should he get clean, I would welcome him back to my life. If there was a girlfriend who perhaps shared these hard years with him, she might feel like you do.
I would hope that where there is recovery and joy, there is enough love to go around for everyone.
I am happy for you and your child and husband, and hope the healing continues for each of you.
Hugs