Originally Posted by
lizatola 
I gave myself a lot of pats on the back for being so capable and so much better than my XAH. Don't get in my way or try to clean something that's on my list! That's MINE and I can do it myself because I have always been doing it myself, thank you very much.
I definitely understand this "I don't need you" defensiveness. Its intense. When AH tries to help with DS I am pretty good about not lashing out, but internally I'm thinking "He doesn't like that, but you wouldn't know because you were never around...." or "His bed time is this, his routine is that, just let me do it, etc etc..."
Once you realize you're superwoman/superman and can do it on your own, its honestly annoying when someone else who has forced you into that position tries to come back in while the defensive wall is still up...