In my last good bout of sobriety I actually decided to return to AA because I knew it was chock full of people with control issues who like to tell you what to do. And those are precisely the people that make me completely mental. I thought it would be a good place to start practicing how to "let things slide off my back". I mean anyone is free to say anything they please to me. It's up to me how I respond (preferable) or react (what I typically do).
I know it's hard to take...but I think it's good for us to learn how to stand our own ground and have confidence in our own wisdom and decisions.