I'm with COhD. I also completely agree with Lexie that it's important to follow your gut, and if you're not comfortable with it then you're just not comfortable with it.
It was very difficult for me to understand and accept that someone would just want to help me simply because they cared about me and they were in a position to help. I had very, very little experience with something like that until quite recently. It's always important to check someone's motives (and our own motives), but sometimes a cigar is just a cigar--sometimes help is just help.
I can't say with any certainty whether that is what is going on here, because we only have a portion of the story, none of us have ever met Liz's guy, etc. Liz, I certainly trust YOU to trust your gut. Because even if all this is, is straight up 100% non-controlling help, you still need to be comfortable with it.
