I went to some counselling, but wasn't really ready to be honest with anyone 100%. I kind of slid around the truth just telling her tbe bits that i was comfortable with (ie nothing that would make me look bad, or touch on my part in anything at all). That's what made me realise that I DID need to get a sponsor and work the steps, which I'd been unwilling to do for the first 6 months in AA, when I just sat in meetings. So, i got willing and that's what I did, and that's how I worked through my 'garbage'. After all, that's what the 12-step program is all about.