Interestingly, for me a key breakthrough about 10 months in was, understanding that there is no tiger waiting in the bush ready to pounce, and that confidence and strength can replace fear and uncertainty. I'm in charge, not my fears that go away when I stop giving them power. It took a bit more time to really live that, but by about 18 months in I was as stable as I am now. Different strokes, we're all unique snowflakes.