Leaving was definitely a process but a day at a time and before you know it you are where you never thought possible. Everyone told me you will be OK...and I thought you know what I will be! I will get through this and my mind is MUCH clearer now that I'm not living under the same roof as him. The woe is me has been happening pretty much every day for me for the last 4 months since I left and I too share children with my ex. But, you learn to sort of just tune it out.