And there is the one that isn't hostile, but retreats from any personal relationship when drinking. Sits in a chair like a zombie. No interaction at all. Not mean, just not present. Of course, when there was a family function he was slurring words, making emotional statements and walking into walls. But he didn't have a problem!! Oh, yeah...*he* hadn't had too much to drink to drive.....that garage door just got in the way of the bumper...how many times? The gkids/kids weren't in danger cuz he hadn't had too much....uh....right!