Originally Posted by
BeachPlease 
Or also how did some of you fare after finally leaving your spouse/gf/bf?
I met my now (non-A) husband right after I finally go of my XABF and accepted that he had every right to live as he chose...and so did I. No more front row seat to the progressive disaster he couldn't seem to see he was embracing.
Alcoholism, left untreated, is progressive, so what we can live with one day is not what we are signing on for.
I love your username. And you are not alone.