Thread: Mixed messages?
View Single Post
Old 07-15-2016, 09:06 AM
  # 10 (permalink)  
AnvilheadII
Member
 
AnvilheadII's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2013
Location: W Washington
Posts: 11,589
well....three years isn't THAT long in relationship terms....but it could be that he tried to the committed relationship/family thing and just found it wasn't for him......add to that issues with drinking and he tapped out. he wants no responsibility but all of the benefits. then he gets an emergency text from you to please call ASAP because one of the kids was having issues........and that is exactly what he doesn't want.

it's tough stuff to face. not every man wants to step in a do the DAD thing. or the commitment thing. that doesn't have to get heaped with blame or fault or failings, it just is......

this is a tough time for the children.....i'd be very cautious about setting up dates and sleepovers that include the children, as he is likely to bail and that would leave them very disappointed. children try to make sense of the world with their very limited experience and will often figure it must be THEM.....they don't understand all the intricacies and complexities of the adult world. they can believe that THEY are not good enough.......
AnvilheadII is offline