I didn't drink every day either. And, I rationalized my drinking by saying I was present much of the time. That's not how my family saw it at all. Facing those feelings was terribly difficult for me, and I hear the pain in your post as you are going through this. The upside is that this is recovery - feeling this pain and working through it, accepting that your children's opinions will take time to change. You are on the right path.
