good words and im glad to read you were able to have the conversation.
all them years of drinking I don't recall even thinking I might be hurting others.
then I got sober. repairing broken relationships didn't happen overnight and I didn't have one family member that trusted me for crap in the beginning. i couldn't blame them. the repair took time- all action on my part.
3 years ago my neice bought a house. she asked if i could refinish the floor before she moved in. after it was all done and moved in, we hadda little family party in her back yard. we were sittin around and for some reason stories of my drinkin started happening. the great thing was there wasn't gloom and doom about it- we were all laughin at my insanity.
then my neice said," uncle tom, how long have you been sober?"
"8 years now"
"im very glad you got sober. you wouldn't be here if you were still drinkin and your enjoyable to have around."
relationships can be mended, but it takes T.I.M.E. and action