I think I am actually speechless right now. I want to extend condolences to your sons friend family.
I know how often we read and respond to someone who wants to leave, or who should really leave. There is more to think about instead of just leaving, you need to think of your safety.
I haven't read this whole supreme court ruling yet. I don't know if you actually need to be convicted of DV, or just arrested. I do think one of the most unpredictable times is when you have a TRO. (temporary restraining order)
You have a piece of paper saying this, but that paper isn't going to stop a bullet.