"The minute we put our work on a service plane, the alcoholic commences to rely upon our assistance rather than upon God."
These days many sponsors attempt too much, delving into areas where they have no business. The main role of a sponsor is to show the newcomer how to have a life changing spiritual experience through the teaching and practice of the twelve steps. Whether or not this was a relapse is very much the application of the principles of the steps, which the sponsor can help with. At the end of the day, it is the OPs feelings on the matter and their feeling about God's will that count.