Originally Posted by
lizatola 
I don't do those things to my bf. I am not the same person I was.....but sometimes I'm very afraid that it will all come back and I will be stuck in a vortex of codependency again. That fact, right there, scares the crap out of me!
This. Right here. A thousand million times this. I have struggled with this, too, with the prospect of my gentleman friend moving closer. How long until he sees something ugly in me? Will I be able to keep old behaviors that I have worked so hard to eliminate from coming back?
You are not alone, my friend.