Hi BacktotheGood,
Just wanted to tell you that your posting encapsulated so many similar arguments at my house before I moved out. There is no logic and no arguing with crazy. But when you're in it, it feels like you're the one being too demanding, too doubtful, or whatever other "failure" the A wants to pin on you (me). Ugh. Get away; move on; no more.
As a side note, I could never understand why my AH hid his bottles around the house. I thought maybe he secretly wanted to be found out, but it made me feel disgusted to find his dirty smelly old bottles. Maybe, as others have said, he was trying to avoid the tally of how much he was actually consuming.