its best to try and see both sides and be thankful somehow if you got a raw deal. For example my step father was an abusive alcoholic SOB. and i'm estatic i dont have to call him today
. Best thing he ever did for me was walk the Eff out of my life
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I also now live next door to my own father so while my step father robbed me of 20+ years i could have spent lots of time with my real father. as my step father moved us so far away regular visits where near impossible. Now i get to see my dad whenever and I'd be willing to bet rather i know i take this for granted. One thought that when tthrough my head today even was who knows how many more of these kinds of days i'll get with him?