Hi - what tursiopes999 wrote. I'll add, that during the early days of sobriety, I only attended social events that I absolutely had to. When I do attend, I pause before any conversations and really think about how I respond. Drinking is simply not an option anymore and it has been freeing to live this way. If I become too anxious, I either leave that space for awhile and breathe deeply or just smile and remain silent. Works so far. Good luck. We can do this!