My ex-boyfriend go to exactly one al-anon meeting then announce that my alcoholism was my problem and he has to put his own happiness first. I was so psss off. He knew my history, I had help him through TON of life issues, but now he has sanction to let me deal with my issues alone. Worst thing is, he go cuz I suggest it! Ha!
For lot of people, depression and anxiety come mixed, including me now with my bi-polar, which is bringing in some intense anxieties which I never has while I drinking regularly.
Bottom line is you can has the most untenable sufferings going on in you head --way worse than a leg on fire-- cuz the torments of the brain/mind are infinite. But these mental conditions is invisible.
The world shrugs.