I am also miffed that bf does not at all acknowledge my "triumph" over drugs and alcohol. He is a total enabler and I hate it. I want a partner who does not want me to use at any cost, and after all I have read about the user/enabler dynamic I don't know what it is to be so angry at the enabler and where is any simply human validation for my efforts? If I can be made a villain for drinking can I be a small hero for quitting?
Give it time my wife took it lightly in that 6 months or so in she suggested i get a 6 pack of my favorite kind to celebrate how good i've done it was tempting too. A year came and went and she didnt notice. But now at 5 yeas I wake up to a card today "to my hero". I have not opened it yet I'm just eyen it like oh wow not gonna open it yet tho. So maybe give him time.
Hang in there!