Yes, sleepie, I could write a book. But to keep it short and to the point, and I may be overreaching, but it sounds like you may not be in the healthiest of relationships. As I've gotten sober, I've realized my enablers are in fact not looking out for my best interest. Once I realized this, I knew I have to stay sober. It's the only way out. The best way to deal with an enabler is not to have one. That's just my experience, hope it helps.