Originally Posted by
AnvilheadII 
WELCOME.
i am concerned for your safety! have you called the police on any of his abuse? or when he shows up drunk and banging on your door? that would be a start. also getting a restraining order. you must treat this as a dangerous threat, not something you can manage.
you could also cut off contact. don't listen to his messages, don't call him back. consider an alarm system. take EVERY precaution as you would if this was a stranger.
i am very sorry you are dealing with this. we get it. we know the fear, mixed with the concern for him.
Thank you for your reply. I'm not overly concerned. I live in the UK and a restraining order doesnt do much, he would just ignore it and turn up anyway. Once I answer the door I manage to put him in a cab and calm him down, but its the constant fear of having to put myself and my mother (who is kindly letting me live with her) through it all.
I wake up at night thinking I can hear him banging on the door