Originally Posted by
awuh1 
Support your husband. Make the entire visit about him and what's good for him. Everything you do and everything you say (particularly to your in-laws), make it about him and the impact it might have on him. Filter the entire visit through the goal of making it a good visit for him. Paradoxically, the more selfless you can be, the easier it will be for you.
Oh ya. I wouldn't hurt to pray.
Unfortunately, I think 20 years of supporting him and them and letting everything fall on me was a big contributor to my alcoholism.