Great post behappy. It's all about commitment. Time heals all wounds, even those that we need to be reminded of. I'm going on two years in July. Until I realized that I had to put great effort in to my sobriety and remind my self exactly why I won't drink today, I was setting myself up for failure. I have to remind myself each and every day what I was like for the 20 years I drank every single day.
Once you forget why you won't drink today, it's back to day one.
Breaking this cycle is all about commitment and constant learning and adapting. There isn't a crystal ball for sobriety, we learn as we go. Never forget why you are staying sober. Everyone has their own way to accomplish this. For me, I come to SR as much as I can... this place keeps me grounded, learning and never lets me forget why I won't drink today.
Use all of your resources available to you to give you the best chance at breaking the cycle and keeping it broken.