Time to find more compassionate "help." That kind of attitude doesn't belong in any kind of recovery organization. It's hard to enough to actively seek out support without being talked down to. It took me a while to find a program that resonated with me. I knew it had to be positive, affirming and focused on now rather than the past. If you live in London, there has to be other types of support groups than the one you spoke of. Find one that speaks to you.