From a Mom's point of view
The last thing your mom wants is for you to get mixed up in this merry go round. She is so consumed with helping the addict that she forgets to tell you how proud she is of you! What a relief it is that you are managing your own life and she didn't fail with you. I have no advice for you. I'm only writing because I to have 2 sons one was doing okay the other is a addict and I am enabling. My son that I thought was okay is lying in a hospital from a drug overdose brought on by depression meds fighting for his life with every breathe. The addicted son says I have abandoned him for his brother's foolishness. I don't have any answers but I'm sure going to try to find some. I have to heal myself first.