I was married to a problem drinker too - not sure if he was alcoholic or not, and I'm glad to say we are no longer together so I am no longer exposed to his alcohol abuse.
However being in that relationship taught me how i can only control myself. I tried a lot of things to get him to stop or cut back, nothing worked. All I could do was manage my own "stuff."
I hope you can find some peace and the right path forward for yourself.