I agree with what fantail touched on. Even if it's a fun party and others enjoy getting tipsy, it's not fun for me anymore because I drink to blackout and / or spend 3 days afterwards in a hungover haze of shame and regret. Not accepting this 100% kept me drinking longer. But I accept it now, although there are times it is hard to not feel I'm missing out. I'm also seeking out sober friends in AA and finding activities that are not centered around alcohol / intoxication. This helps immensely, so that I'm too busy to worry about what others are doing.