I don't know much but I know that sobriety has to be our #1 priority or we don't make it. I've battled with my wife for years to support me and asked her to not drink around me or at all so we could be sober together. To no avail. She says "I don't have a problem, you do." I finally said I needed to be safe and i'll leave if I have to in order to protect my sobriety. I don't know what else to do. I'm committed to doing whatever I have to, in order too remain sober. So far so good, she hasn't drank since I started this journey. I think that's called support. I need support. I think telling her drinking in front of our children was emotional abuse shook her up a bit. We all love our children. None of us wants to be "that parent" Best wishes. Let's fight for what we know is right in our hearts.