[QUOTE=thisisit2016;5958181]I'm not sure if he's technically abusive. He obviously hurts me verbally a lot -- and I think I resent him for that part.
Sounds "technically" abusive to me.
I'm in the process of getting out of my own domestic hell, it's taken a long time and I'm not actually out of the door yet. I've also been sober for a little while too. I'm probably too close to your problem to be of much use, but I do relate to your situation (the way you've described it anyway) and it's not good, maybe the wine is keeping you in denial?
Strength and courage to do what's right for you and your son can only be made stronger by getting sober.
Be brave sister.
xx