Originally Posted by
SugarPlumBunny 
I really do not want to lose my partner over alcohol and he is not open to the idea of me drinking in moderation.
Perhaps he has accepted the fact that you are an alcoholic and cannot drink normally?
I don't often quote the Big Book, but your post immediately brought to my mind Chapter 3: MORE ABOUT ALCOHOLISM.
Perhaps I heard it read out at a meeting recently.
This is how the chapter starts:
"MOST OF US have been unwilling to admit we were real alcoholics. No person likes to think he is bodily and mentally different from his fellows. Therefore, it is not surprising that our drinking careers have been characterized by countless vain attempts to prove we could drink like other people. The idea that somehow, someday he will control and enjoy his drinking is the great obsession of every abnormal drinker. The persistence of this illusion is astonishing."
~
Alcoholics Anonymous, First Edition, page 30.
You may have read that before.
I have come to believe the wisdom in those words (for me anyway).
So, I wouldn't dream of risking my marriage for the sake of a few beers.
Take care, SugarPlumBunny.