I'm sorry you are struggling, but I must break it to you..there are no "tricks" to getting sober and achieving recovery. In fact, it is quite the opposite..you need to want recovery more than ANYTHING in the entire world and be willing to DO ANYTHING that it takes to achieve it.
Recovery is more than just getting sober, it is making life changes. Although I do not follow AA or any other "standard" recovery method, I still do anything and everything in my power to stay successful. For me it took a full psych evaluation, changing my doctor to an addiction specialist, getting a substance abuse counselor, and a psychiatrist that specializes in addiction. getting rid of my car, taking a leave of absence for school, changing my phone number, deleting contacts and face book, telling my whole family I was a heroin addict, and staying in very close contact with my family. I also started taking vitamins, exercising, eating right, learning yoga and meditation, and rediscovering religion and getting connected in the church. I also volunteer to help give back, fill up my time, and to make a positive change in the community.
You can do this, it is just a lot harder than tricks