Only as far as abstinence goes - I never mastered the cut back thing
If AA's not your thing but you feel like you need meeting based support, you could try secular based approaches like SMART or LifeRing - they're not everywhere like AA but they do have online meetings.
Rational Recovery has no meetings at all - just books - but it's also very secular in nature.
I think if you're worried about withdrawal, seeing a Dr is probably a necessity. Not sure where you are but most countries treat medical records as confidential.
as far as making a recovery plan, this is a great link:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ery-plans.html
Feel; free to check out the Class of April support thread too - lots of support there - all you need to do is jump right in and post
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...rt-3-a-10.html
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